The answer, when it comes to kids and husbands is usually no. I expect my children to ignore most of what I say, but not my husband. When you get engaged lots of people give you advice. Some of it is even good advice. Communicate, don’t be needy, be patient, it’s hard – all good advice. No one ever tells you that the person you just vowed to spend the rest of your life with is only going to listen to about a third of what you say.
While on our romantic (if going to bed before 9 PM every night is your idea of romance) vacation in Hawaii, Dallas and I heard about a local military resort. We had already booked a hotel, but I asked Dallas if we should look into staying at the military resort instead. I said those exact words, “should we look at staying at the military resort instead?” He said, “Sure. They’ll probably be booked, but it’s worth a shot.” A few hours later I called and was able to book a cottage and cancel our previous reservation without incurring a fee. When I got off the phone he said, “Geez, I didn’t know you were going to do all that.” Then we got into an argument about a conversation he swears never happened.
I almost drowned him at the beach, but then I wouldn’t have anyone to bring me mai tai’s.
This weekend we are doing demo on the main bathroom, so it can be redone (by a professional – Dallas and I don’t work well together) next week. Two weeks ago I asked him if we should have people over for the Super Bowl or if it would be too much with the bathroom project. He said, “Sure, they can use the other bathroom. It’s a bunch of Army guys, they’re used to it.”
So I invited a few people over. Just like we talked about.
He has no recollection of that conversation. A few days ago we had to have a huge discussion about when we were going to do the demo and why we were having people over when the house was all torn up.
So I cancelled on our friends. When I told him I cancelled he was shocked and wanted to know why.
I told him it was so I wouldn’t murder him on Super Bowl Sunday.